Rob Fisher, MFT Presents
Self-Paced Learning with 59+ Videos & Exercises. Reach the heart of the issue, and hearts of your clients.
"Reach the heart of the issue, and the hearts of your clients, more effectively than before"
My name is Rob Fisher. I'm the founder of Mindfulness Centered Couples Therapy, and have been in practice and teaching grad students for many years. When I look back on my 25+ years of teaching couples therapy and 1000’s of hours practicing it with clients, while pioneering the use of mindfulness and the body in couples therapy, I think "Hmm, this is a really important innovation in the field that can bring, depth, aliveness and great heart to the work we do." These are golden, deeply compassionate tools that touch and reorganize couples' vulnerability and the implicit blueprints of their relationships in ways much deeper than conversation alone can accomplish. I hope you join me in this.
Couples therapy can be both daunting and it can be very rewarding. We can change the course of peoples lives, their relationships, and the well being of their children. Providing therapy to couples in chaos or in disengagement can be confusing and sometimes overwhelming for the therapist. I understand because I've been there myself. I created this innovative course to help our profession become more effective in what we do. It goes far beyond what most of us learned in grad school.I know because I have taught those courses! Give it three to four months of your time for this self-paced online course - You'll become a better couples therapist - having much less confusion and overwhelm and feeling like you can go directly to the heart of the issue in gentle, respectful and viscerally impactful ways.
Bonnie and Scott had terrible fights in which he would accuse her of not hearing him, and she would become angry because he was "simply disrespectful" toward her. One of these conflicts started in my office. After observing for a few minutes, I asked them to take a moment, close their eyes, and go inside.
I asked if it would be O.K. to have Scott voice one sentence of his complaint and for Bonnie to track inside exactly what occurred. I asked them to do this in slow motion (so to speak) so that they could find out more about what was happening underneath.
Bonnie gave Scott a signal, and he said, “I can't stand it when you get defensive.''
I suggested she take her time so that she could really find out how that got under her skin. After a few moments, she said, “I can't stand disappointing him.''
Again I suggested that she stay with this sense of how intolerable it was to let him down and notice if there was anything familiar about the feeling. “Yes,'' she said. It reminded her of how her parents had never punished her; they just told her how disappointed in her they were. This had been quite effective in manipulating her behavior. Rather than experience the pain of disappointing one more intimate person, she would react angrily.
By exploring the interaction in mindfulness, she was able to become aware of a dynamic that occurred too quickly to notice in ordinary consciousness. This became an entry way that eventually allowed her to begin to differentiate her husband from her parents, and to begin to tolerate his feelings of disappointment without having to fend them off with anger.
Couples therapy can be fast paced and chaotic. The chaos may take the unaware therapist by surprise. But here's the Catch-22. You can't get better at couples therapy without observing at close range some of the bitterness, hostility, distrust, and the occasional out-of-control outbursts of rage. That said, you don't have to leave the sessions feeling just as conflicted as your clients.
Here's why…In this course you will learn how to help couples unwind their gridlocked dynamics with mindfulness assisted study of their individual wounds and the systems that they generate. The Mindfulness Centered Couples Therapy training course prepares you for such chaos and demonstrates how to calm the brewing storm both internally and externally through the application of mindfulness to exploration and deconstruction of limiting couples dynamics.
At your own pace, through easy to consume videos
Mindfulness: mindfulness is a golden key to working with couples in a way that dramatically diffuses volatility and increases self observation and compassion. This course will show you exactly how to work with the present moment in couples therapy.
Interventions that go beyond conversation and communication: The injuries, values and beliefs that drive couples interactions operate much deeper in our psyches then ordinary therapeutic conversation will touch. You will learn to work with live experience in ways that can change the underlying neural patterns and ancient injuries that underlie the daily dynamics.
Systemic Assessment: Couples get locked in self-reinforcing systems. Good assessment leads to good intervention. Take your time to understand what is happening before moving into interventions.
Individual Contributions: We continue outlining the assessment of individual issues that contribute to couples difficulties. We are all the unfair beneficiaries of our partners unfinished past and traumatic experiences. Assessment of the historical antecedents to present day behavior, feelings and beliefs is critical to effective couples therapy.
Communication: We also look at the strengths and weaknesses of couples communication patterns, exploring how feelings and needs are communicated, the presence of blame, manipulation versus accountability and vulnerable self disclosure.
Resources: We go over couples resources, their strengths and skills that often get lost in the fray of arguments. And the theoretical orientation of the couples therapist that can lead towards emphasis on the pathological leaving clients deeply embedded in a hopeless view of themselves and their relationship.
BONUS Section on Assessment includes the following free videos distilling the essence of assessment according to the following models:
BONUS Section on Self-Exploration Includes The Following Free Videos:
Bonus Video #1: The Wisdom of Children about Relationships
Children often speak the truth. In this bonus video are some funny quotes about marriage and relationships. Don't lose your sense of humor when doing couples therapy! Also feel free to use humor in sessions to break toxic cycles of relating. Make sure that you are not disparaging either person, but calling attention to the absurdity and commonality of our human condition. Introducing a sense of lightness of being can be the antidote to deeply ingrained patterns of emotional disconnection and volatility.
Bonus Video #2: Personal Development: Touching Your Heart
In therapy it is very helpful to use the wisdom from the body to access deeper levels of the psyche. This bonus video introduces an exercise to help you touch into your own emotional/spiritual heart and use your body to gain new wisdom, a deeper connection to your own lovingness and a respect for the affairs of the heart.
Bonus Book Chapter: 'Couples and Character'
From my book, Experiential Psychotherapy With Couples. When I first started studying character, I was frustrated that my clients did not fit into the psychoanalytic model I was learning. Later I studied the Hakomi model of character, which is actually based on Freud's model, modified by Reich, then Lowen and finally Kurtz to depathologize it, include the body and the inherent strengths and creative adaptations to difficult life situations. It has since become a cornerstone of how I view individuals and couples interactions. I know you will find this bonus reading of benefit.
"Whether they want to learn a new system or to supplement their existing approaches, therapists of many persuasions will find Experiential Psychotherapy with Couples - A Guide for the Creative Pragmatist to be an aptly named treasure trove. Both theoretically sophisticated and full of ‘how-to techniques’ and illuminating case examples. It’s fun to read. I recommend it enthusiastically."
"Very grateful for the training you provided. I truly felt the nourishment in the training. I think this is the best gift I have ever given myself."
"Rob Fisher has developed a host of effective ways to resolve couples gridlock by tapping into experience that the partners often don't even know they are having. Its hard to read his new book without repeatedly thinking, ‘That's how I should be doing couples therapy."
"You were a thoughtful, compassionate, and knowledgeable instructor. I loved this course! It was surprising to me that I could learn so much about Hakomi in such a short amount of time. Your ability to teach the amount of information you did was phenomenal! I loved the meditation exercises, and will be using them in my work with clients. I’m honored and grateful to have been able to take this class with you."
"Rob's Experiential Couples' Therapy training is rich, poignant & constructive. Rob is fun, insightful & deeply caring. The training is packed with: Great foundational theory/understanding/principles sensitivity for the delicacy & beauty/pain of couples' relationships; & tons of practical creative directly-experiential strategies and tools for working with all sorts of couples and relational-dynamics. "
"Filled with clear examples and exercises, this book offers practical guidelines to therapists interested in experiential orientation"
"Reach the heart of the issue, and the hearts of your clients, more effectively than before"
Yes - if you are interested in becoming a more effective couples therapist by learning how to use the present moment in therapy to locate and transform core wounds and beliefs. The course is full of practical insights which you will use to help gently turn the chaos in couple's lives into intimacy. This approach to couples therapy will open up a whole new way of working for you that will allow you the kind of depth, aliveness and effectiveness that all of us hope for. Conversation has its limitations. Neuroscience shows us that new experiences change the neural patterns that govern our way of behaving, perceiving and feeling. This course will show you how to use live experience to change the neural networks that drive couples interactions
This course is about skills and internal state development. While it provides lots of information on both assessment and interventions, the heart of the learning will be developing practical new methods through demonstrations, talks and exercises.
This course is designed with the time poor therapist in mind.There are short talks on many specific practical aspects of each topic in easy to consume bite-sized video. I’ve invested a life-time of knowledge and experience into this course. All you need to invest is some dedicated hours and less than two-hundred and fifty dollars.
Invest $249 for the full access to the course. If, in the unlikely event and within the first 30-days of purchasing access, you feel the course is not for you then I will personally refund your full payment promptly and with courtesy. Purchase with confidence and without risk.
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